I am 53 years old and have come to the conclusion over many years of military scheduling, family upheavals, life disrupted that I definitely can’t rely on plans made.
2025 was going to be the year we finished and settled into our new home, had our first holiday season there and spent a lot of time with family in Louisiana.
What it ended up: House is mostly finished but still some tweaking going on, we are maybe 80% settled there, still a lot to do and because I had to bolt to Florida we haven’t done much holiday decorating upgrades. I was looking forward to getting some really nice decor. I want to take time to find good, solid, beautiful pieces.
I guess the bright side to that is we aren’t spending the money on it and will be able to take time to really find what we want.
We haven’t seen the grandkids much because of schedules and the parents separated so it’s just awkward and there’s a serious lack of communication going on. Feelings being felt and trying the balance between helping and knowing they need to grow up and figure life out.
My Father In Law is having serious health problems so my husband is spending as much time there with him as he can which means he’s not coming to Florida to see/help me until that situation improves a lot. I may not see him until it’s time for me to come home.
Trying not to think about the fact that his father might succumb and I’ll miss saying goodbye.
So, I’m not looking to make plans at this point. Just going to take things as they come and know things are happening how they are supposed to and there’s a reason for all of it.
I will celebrate the good days like being able to see an old friend over the weekend that I haven’t seen since we were in Japan and will hopefully get together with her again soon.
Life Notes 